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How To Control Frustration

 

In 1948, Seattle authorities feared that a race riot would break out in a run-down housing area. A family—300 of them black, were jammed into temporary barracks built for war workers. Tension was in the air, rumours rife, a stabbing reported. The University of Washington, called on for advice, rushed 25 trained interviewers to the scene.

The interviewers went from door to door, trying to discover the extent of racial hatred. They were surprised to find very little. Ninety percent of the whites and blacks interviewed said that they felt "about the same" or "more friendly" toward the other group since moving into the area. What, then, was eating them?

These families were angry about the ramshackle buildings, the backfiring kitchen stoves and the terrible roads inside the property. Many were worried about a strike at Boeing Airline Co. In short, a series of frustrations from other causes had infected the whole community, and could have resulted in a race riot.

Fast work by the authorities staved off this disaster. Once the true causes were discovered, buildings were repaired, new equipment installed, the roads improved. The crisis passed.

This case is a dramatic application of a challenging theory about human behaviour exhaustively demonstrated by a group of Yale scientists in an old book, Frustration and Aggression, which has become a classic. Since reading it some years ago, I have met many of my personal problems with better under-standing, and gained fresh insight into some big public questions as well.

A common result of being frustrated, the Yale investigators have shown, is an act of aggression, sometimes violent. To be alive is to have a goal and pursue it—anything from cleaning the house, or planning a vacation, to saving money for retirement. If somebody or something blocks the goal, we begin to feel bent up and thwarted. Then we get mad (1) The blocked goal, (2) the sense of frustration, (3) aggressive action—this is the normal human sequence. If we are aware of what is going on inside us, however, we can save ourselves a good deal of needless pain and trouble.

Everyone has encountered frustration on the highways. You are driving along a two-lane road behind a big trailer-truck. You’re in a hurry, while the truck driver seems to be enjoying the scenery. After miles of increasing frustration you grow to hate him. Finally you step on the gas and pass him defiantly, regardless of the chance you may be taking. This kind of frustration must cause thousands of accidents a year. Yet, if you realised what was going on in your nervous system, you could curb such dangerous impulses.

The aggressive act that frustration produces may take a number of forms. It may be turned inward against oneself, with suicide as the extreme example. It may hit back directly at the person or thing causing the frustration. Or it may be transferred to another object—what psychologists call displacement. Displacement can be direct against the dog, the parlour furniture, the family or even total strangers.

A man rushed out of his front door in Brooklyn one fine spring morning and punched a passer-by on the nose. In court he testified that he had had a quarrel with his wife. Instead of punching her he had the bad luck to punch a police detective.

Aggression is not always sudden and violent; it may be devious and calculated. The spreading of rumours, malicious gossip, a deliberate plot to discredit, are some of the roundabout forms. In some cases frustration leads to the opposite of aggression, a complete retreat from life.

The classic pattern of frustration and aggression is nowhere better demonstrated than in military life. Gls studied by the noted American sociologist Samuel A. Stouffer in the last war were found to be full of frustrations due to their sudden loss of civilian liberty. They took it out verbally on the brass, often most unjustly. But in combat, soldiers felt far friendlier toward their officers. Why? Because they could "discharge their aggression directly against the enemy."

Dr. Karl Menninger, of the famous Menninger Foundation in Topeks, pointed out that children in all societies are necessarily frustrated, particularly from birth, as they are broken in to the customs of the tribe. A baby’s first major decision is "whether to holler or swatter"—when it discovers that the two acts cannot be done simultaneously. Children have to be taught habits of cleanliness, toilet behaviour, regular feeding, punctuality, habits that too often are hammered in.

Grownups with low boiling points, said Dr. Menninger, probably got that way because of excessive frustrations in childhood. We can make growing up a less difficult period by giving children more love and understanding. Parents in less "civilised" societies, Menninger observes, often do this. He quotes a Mojave Indian, discussing his small son: "why should I strike him? He is small, I am big. He cannot hurt me."

When we do experience frustration, there are several things we can do to channel off aggression. First, we can try to remove the cause that is blocking our goal. An individual may be able to change his foreman, even his job or his residence, if the frustration is a continuing one.

If this cannot be done, then we can seek harmless displacements. Physical outlets are the most immediately helpful. Go out in the garden and dig like fury. Or take a long walk, punch a bag in the gym, make the pins fly in a bowling alley, cut down a tree. The late Richard C. Tolman, a great physicist, once told me that he continued tennis into his 60s because he found it so helpful in working off aggressions.

As a writer I receive pan letters as well as fan letters, and some of them leave me baffled and furious. (Some, I must admit, are justified.) Instead of taking it out on the family, I write the critic the nastiest reply I can contrive. That makes me feel a lot better. Next morning I read it over with renewed satisfaction. Then I tear it up and throw it in the wastebasket. Aggression gone, nobody hurt.

But perhaps the best way of all to displace aggressive feelings is by hard, useful work. If both body and mind can be engaged so much the better.

The world is filled today with a great surplus of anger and conflict. We are far from knowing all about the sources of these destructive feelings, but scientists have learned enough to clear up quite a load of misery. Their findings can help us reduce that load and even utilise its energy, through a better understanding of our neighbours and ourselves.

by STUART CHASE

 

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